Quotes Of The Day
"Never alter yourself in order for someone to love or accept you!! Be you 365! Someone will love and accept you for you. Time is valuable; don't waste it pretending to be someone you're not."Erica Black
Erma? who is her? she is someone which one own motorbike that i crashed. So, what is so special about her? To know how special she is, let’s get to know the story first.
It begin when i finished eating es cream in Lotus with friends and started to move my car out of parking lot. Then I’m going to move backward in purpose to make space for going out from park, then i crash into someone motorbike. And the motorbike is fall down, then the security guys tell me to stop, even tough i had stopped. And i walk out from my car to checked the motorbike, it looks little scratched and no minor damage other then that.
So, i intended to going home, but one of the security guys told me to wait because he said that he want to call the owner. So, i tell okay and say let’s me park the car first, the security guy agreed with worry. Then i wait and make a little chit chat with the security guy that left in parking lot. Not so long after, the owner came up.
The owner is a tomboy lady, and i smile to her. Then she smiled back at me. Oh this is good sign that she is a patient person. So, she checked the motorbike and as is just have little scratch, she tell is okay to leave. And then she moved her motorbike to deeper place in parking lot.
So, i walk to my car, and try to starter my car but the key is broken, although i don’t sure it’s broken before or after i starter the car. So, i ask one of the security guys to lend me a screwdriver. They ask why you needed that? i said because my key is broken, and they said they don’t have it.
But because she still there then she ask for pliers to the security guys, they said the maintenance guys is already going home. So, she back to her motorbike and lend me the screwdriver. Then i tried to push out the broken part inside but it not move cause the screwdriver is too big. So, she tried to find hairpin in her head, although she said that she don’t have it before.
Then the security guys tried to help me to push out the broken part inside the lock. And she is going back inside Lotus to find the pliers. When she is going back, i waiting outside the car. Suddenly the security guy successfully retrieve the broken part then i said thank you. And i ask who is her name, he said he didn’t remember although the first time he tell the other security guard to find her.
So, i walk out from the parking lot slowly, and hoping that i can meet her cause she still searching for pliers. Then she came out and ask whether it’s okay now?, and i say yes cause i had spare key with me and i said thank you for her help. Then i ask her name and she tell her name Erma. And i introduce myself as Deni then I’m going to home.
That all the story, so what so special about her is she actually okay with crash before, and don’t have grudge in the heart. Because she still with full heart want to helped me when i had that problem. Is not like the security guys the still put grudge and half-heart to help me but change their mind when look the owner is open heart.
So, I’m happy to see slightest look of angel in real life. It mean, there is pure heart not pretended in real life. Cause now days people likely pretend to be good but actually not because they put string attached. So, the wisdom is help the needed people wherever you are with full heart, because someday you will be needed the help.
Do you think can hide your emotion perfectly? do you think it’s okay to act differently and people will understand you somehow? do you think it’s okay to avoid pain and not become hurt? if you answer this yes, then your mind is absolutely wrong cause we not life alone in the world, wake up !!!.
Of course all the act before is like you build wall around you and when you feel not safe, and when you still feel not safe then you build more wall around you and it’s become more, more thick. And one by one people can’t reach you because you cover up by wall and last just few people around you. And you think they can reach you but it’s also still absolutely wrong.
Because they also can’t reach you but they just accept you and your wall as one packet. Nobody but you that can make people can reach you, so you must be brave, fight your fear and come up to surface not just hide beneath your wall. Because it’s better to have real emotion than just pretend have emotion but it’s just in your mind. Of course it’s not easy and comfort but you must make a crack, not just do it slowly to decrease the thickness. Because you will just going in one place, you will likely go to your safe place if it’s danger then the wall become thick, thin, thick, thin and not going anywhere.
And if you still think you are right then you will not change forget the rest of the reading. To accept change first we must know that what is we know right not always right and it can be wrong. And later after we know it was wrong then we can slowly change it to become right. Of course first trying will make it’s feel awkward but if you want make it habit. Then you need to know how act become habit, and it will be done automatically. The key is it must be repetitive and constantly do for some time to make everything become habit. And based on latest research it at least need 22 days to become automatically and average it’s need 30 days. It’s okay if you forgot for one time but not twice in a row.
So, now it’s up to you live in your wall or break the wall and live it your live. If you still afraid at least give it try and if you fail to break your wall for first time, then try try try until you have made a crack. After you made crack you will be spirited to continue and soon or later the wall become break. So happy trying keep your spirit high.
Although it’s 2 month ago my birthday and i don’t announce it in my blog in that time. But today in special day i will announce my birthday in 9 July so you will remember because today day with most nine in day so you at least will remember that my birthday day is nine and hopefully next year will be much present and greeting for me :p.
But actually birthday have a dilemma because we know that with our age add 1 in our birthday so we will near death by one step or at least one year. But in the other hand we will feel great in that day cause we know long time ago we born in that day and we will feel like new again. And maybe some of you like me in my birthday i will come up with new resolution for next year and hope next year in 9 July i will have great result. But that not problem just enjoy your birthday and have fun.
Since 3 days ago my connection to internet is down and i can’t connect to internet. This internet black out cause by people which is cut down bts cable in 16 location in Bali which is not professionally work and causing 88 location of bts error. And this problem make me skip 3 days to blog and missed the nablopomo event, but it’s okay there is next month to join the nablopomo. But this black out make me think that internet had been addictive thing in my life and i need to make priority.
But with so many thing i want to do in life and so little time to enjoy time for myself. Then i will start by gradually make my 101 thing to do in 1001 days list, and i will start now. By time goes i update thing in the list while doing the other thing in list. It’s a dynamic list and i can change it if don’t feel suitable before i had do the task. But i can’t change the list after i do the task. Cause i often lazy to do routine thing and idea can come from anything but to become reality we must do the thing not just dream. And by written down the wish it will make easier to achieve and the universe will help us to make real.
And to tell other how i’m progress and what is the task i will make publish in one page, and make special tag for post the progress update which is “101/1001″. And because it’s my personal life and it can be very boring then you can just skip it, or if you feel interested to know the progress and give me courage you can read it and make comment. Thank for reading.
101 thing to do in 1001 project
start : 18 August 2009
end : 9 May 2012
When we in a disaster then we will try our best to keep our life if we think there is hope that miracle will happen and we will survive the disaster. But if we think there is no miracle will happen and we will die soon, so we will lose faith and actually it eventually will happen because we don’t try to keep our life. Or when we have problem that look like it never solved and it’s haunted our life, just keep your faith that problem will solved cause miracle is happen. And miracle just happen to person that believe that miracle is real, and then just wait to happen. Cause when you really hope and believe it than nature will give respond. Then is up to you to take the chance or just let it go, and if you take the chance then miracle will come to your life. Keep believing and then miracle happen.
This is actually came from my personal experience when talk with some of my women friend but i think is funny. In Friday afternoon, me and some friend talked about fitness center near our office which is had 2 different tariff which is women member tariff is more cheaper than man member tariff. And i say that it’s exclusivity to attract more men not just women. Then one of my woman friend is not agreed that is not exclusivity but just to attract women to come fitness. Then i explain they give the exclusivity(lower price) to women and then many women came. Which is indirectly attract more men to come. So actually the fitness center is use the offer to attract more men. She still not agreed, then i explain more that even club have girl night out which is give free pass to women. And i said this promotion not just to attract women but to attract more men to come. She still arguing then i asked do you still fitness there if the price is same. She said that of course not cause she like the offer but she still not agreed that called exclusivity.
Nah, that the funny thought of women, they love to get free pass to club or lower price to become member but don’t want to called that some kind of promotion. Or it’s like when women wear sexy clothes to attract more men to look at them but get annoying if every men look at them, or they use high heel just to be looked more beautiful even it’s hurting them. So actually women love to have the attention but they being annoyed when they have the attention. And it’s funny, do you agree that women thought is funny?
Love is hard to explain but not love is easy to explain. Because not loving is will always come up with hatred or not care. And to express hatred is easy you can scold people, kick people, ignore people or even worse you can kill people. But our topic is love, and love is many kind depend on our relation with other. Love to our child, love to our spouse, love to our family, love to our country, love to our friend, but greatest love is love to humanity. Love is hard to give cause it can be wrong interpreted or wrong understand. Like when we want to help clean our spouse table but our spouse is angry cause our spouse hard to find the important notes or we want to help our child to happy by giving them present but they don’t like it cause it not toy they like. But by giving love to everyone you will be feel peace in mind cause you don’t keep hatred in your heart and you can eat, or do something without worry. And we must choose carefully to giving love cause it can be wrong understood or interpreted but not afraid to giving love.
Lets spread your love to everyone
Everyday we heard and read in news that people being robbed, stolen, killed, pick-pocketed, injured, had accident, and other bad thing happen. And when we look more deeply we know that actually almost all the danger can be avoided if we more keen to situation. But also there is danger that just happen and we can’t avoided, for this danger we just can pray and hope that not happen. But for danger can be avoided, then we must try harder to avoid, like this example: we pass the quiet street to make come home faster, but in the middle of the street, then from nowhere came a robber and threat our life to take our valuables, or when we being stolen it’s because we don’t put our valuables carefully and so on. So to avoid this danger we need keen mind and by having it we will less encounter danger. Because with keen mind we will know something is not right before it’s happen and we can take another action and the danger is passed. So, let keep your mind keen to help you out of danger.
why there is successful people and unsuccessful people in the world? we feel jealous when we see successful person and feel ashamed when we not success. But actually what is the difference between successful and unsuccessful person in work? of course it is a joy in the work we do. With joy in work we do, we will give our best effort to do the job and do the best work we can. But if it is no joy in the work we will just do the job. The result of the work will be different just by there is joy or not in the work. It’s like people who love fishing, they will know when it’s tide, where to find the fish, cause they have joy in their work. But people always afraid to do what they love in the job cause they afraid the job is not pay enough and it’s not right cause you will enjoy your job and you will rocket your income. So, Let’s chase joy in your work.
Happy chasing job of your dream.
Problem always happen to everyone and can be easy, or it’s very hard. And problem can take long time if we don’t know how to solve, and sometimes it make our life worse. And sometimes people thinking the easy way which is run from the problem but as you know it will always come then it will be mountain of problem. So it’s better to solve problem when it’s little. But we can find people which is look like almost not have problem, what they have? Insight, ability to perceive clearly of something. Then to have insight we must practice with easy problem first and we must use logic not emotion. And soon you will have the ability.
Happy Practice.
